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INFJ

Relationship Tips for INFJs

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Introducción

Relationships are a continual interplay of giving, receiving, and compromising. Although every MBTI type has its strengths and weaknesses, your type need not determine your behavior. Moving outside your comfort zone opens up the opportunity for healthy personal and interpersonal development. There are certain human needs that are universal and this makes it possible for any two types to connect with one another. If two people are willing to lower their defenses and genuinely attend to each other’s needs, then the relationship has a great chance for success and happiness.

Consejos por Tipo de Pareja

💑INFJ + INFJ
  • Appreciate and remind each other of this rare opportunity to be with someone who really knows how you feel.
  • Spend quality time together doing things you both enjoy but also allow your partner to have his or her own space and interests.
  • Recognize and appreciate your partner’s great ideas without feeling the need to improve on them.
  • Let your partner know your true feelings. In the heat of an argument, take a breath, step back, and try to listen objectively to what your partner is saying.
  • Try not to be too judgmental or too quick to provide the “right” answer.
  • Pay attention to what is happening with your partner and in your life at the moment.
  • Encourage each other to be more flexible, engaged in the present, and open to spontaneous adventures.
  • Take the initiative to organize social experiences you know your partner will like.
💑INFJ + ESTJ
  • Ask for the time you need to think about issues or problems before discussing them. Don’t just disappear without giving your partner warning.
  • Do thoughtful, tangible things to show your affection for your partner, such as cooking a nice meal, cleaning the house, or remembering to pick up the dry cleaning.
  • Ask your partner for his or her opinion, then listen respectfully to it.
  • Never criticize or undermine your partner’s competence in public.
  • Encourage your partner to get together with friends. Make sure he or she feels free to socialize without you when you’re not in the mood.
  • Tell your partner, as well as other people, how proud you are of his or her achievements. (Third-party compliments are great.)
💑INFJ + ISTJ
  • Initiate physical affection and contact, including back rubs and other sensual pleasures.
  • Write letters and notes to express yourself, giving your partner a chance to think about what you’ve written and respond in kind.
  • Thank your partner for all the tangible things he or she does around the house to keep things running smoothly and efficiently.
  • Cook your partner’s favorite foods, remember to pick up the dry cleaning, and keep the house neat and tidy.
  • Avoid changing plans abruptly or being insensitive to your partner’s routines.
  • Go slowly when suggesting change. Plant the seed and give your partner time to get used to the idea. Be direct, calm, and explicit. Don’t exaggerate or overreact.
  • Listen respectfully even if you think you can anticipate where your partner is going. Don’t interrupt or put words in your partner’s mouth.
💑INFJ + ESFJ
  • Participate in as many activities and experiences as you can. When you need to opt out, reassure your partner that it’s not personal and encourage him or her to attend anyway.
  • Try to include all the facts and steps in a story or project. Don’t start in the middle of a sentence assuming that your partner is with you.
  • Keep track of details such as money. Remember to record checks in the register and keep other records.
  • Compliment your partner on tangible things. Express your appreciation of all the little things your mate does to keep life organized and operating efficiently.
  • Don’t lose yourself so completely in your work that you neglect your share of the household chores and responsibilities.
  • Try to avoid moralizing, and don’t analyze your partner.
💑INFJ + ISFJ
  • Appreciate all the tangible and thoughtful things your partner does to take care of you, your home, and your family.
  • Participate in some the physical activities your partner enjoys, especially those that get you out of the house and into the natural world.
  • Be specific about your requests, concerns, and complaints.
  • Don’t gloss over important steps or leave out key information. Carefully keep track of money.
  • Try not to make or even suggest too many changes too quickly.
  • Respect your partner’s routines and honor the practices that bring him or her comfort.
💑INFJ + ESTP
  • Resist the urge to analyze your partner and tell him or her what he or she is feeling.
  • Give your partner plenty of space and freedom. Don’t make your mate account for all his or her time and actions.
  • Try to be spontaneous. Be willing to change plans or just wing it.
  • Include your partner in your thought process. Let him or her know when something is bothering you.
  • Recognize your partner’s need to let off steam and relieve stress by doing something physical. Initiate physical intimacy and indulge your partner’s need for sex at unusual times and in unusual places.
  • Respect your partner’s curiosity. Don’t force your partner to make a decision before he or she is ready.
  • Do physical things together, such as playing sports, walking, biking, giving each other back rubs or massages, and cuddling.
  • Try not to be too judgmental or demanding. Strive to be flexible.
💑INFJ + ISTP
  • Accept that your partner may not have much to say on a subject and isn’t intentionally withholding anything important.
  • Demonstrate your affection and appreciation in actions as well as words.
  • Surprise your partner. Bring home an unexpected treat or gift.
  • Encourage your partner to spend time alone puttering with his or her projects without having to account for this time or prove that it is productive.
  • Be willing to try some of the spontaneous adventures your partner suggests.
  • Beware of your tendency to assume that you know what your partner is thinking or feeling without checking with him or her first.
  • Resist the urge to moralize. Don’t overanalyze your partner or the relationship.
💑INFJ + ESFP
  • Be sure to pay close attention during discussions. Focus on the moment and look your partner in the eyes.
  • Give spontaneous physical expressions of your appreciation and affection, such as back rubs, hand-holding, or lovemaking.
  • Watch that you don’t moralize or speak in a condescending tone.
  • Participate in activities your partner considers fun. Be willing to try new things.
  • Appreciate your partner for all the little things he or she does to make life more joyful, fun, and beautiful.
  • Don’t disappear. When you have a lot on your mind, tell your partner you need some time to think. Be sure to make it clear you aren’t quiet because you’re mad at him or her.
  • Don’t force decisions. Give your partner options and time to check them out before committing.
  • When your partner is under stress, remember to stop what you’re doing, listen carefully to his or her story, and offer gentle and manageable possibilities.
💑INFJ + ISFP
  • Never underestimate your partner’s need for physical contact and affection. Hold and stroke your partner often, especially when he or she is stressed or upset.
  • Listen fully, attentively, and sympathetically to your partner’s feelings and troubles. Sit close and maintain eye contact.
  • Don’t impose your ambitions or values on your partner or assume a superior attitude that implies you always know what’s best.
  • Relax and be willing to stop what you’re doing to participate in some of the spontaneous activities your partner enjoys.
  • Don’t try to control or limit your partner’s activities or spending habits. Encourage your partner’s innate desire for freedom.
  • Try not to force premature decision making. Respect your partner’s need to gather a lot of information and consider choices fully before making a commitment.
💑INFJ + ENTJ
  • Support, appreciate, and compliment your partner on his or her accomplishments and achievements.
  • Recognize how important your partner’s career aspirations are and support them whenever you can.
  • Never criticize or question your partner’s competence in public.
  • Strive to be more flexible on the little things. Prioritize issues and focus on those that are really critical.
  • Try to lighten up and not insist on a deep emotional connection all the time.
💑INFJ + INTJ
  • Tell your partner straight-out what you want him or her to do to please you or what things you wish were different in your relationships. Don’t make your partner play guessing games.
  • Ask your partner for his or her opinions on issues rather than assuming you know how he or she feels.
  • Respect your partner’s expertise and knowledge. Never question your partner’s competence in public.
  • Respect your partner’s need for time alone to pursue his or her own projects, then genuinely give it without implying that you feel left out or lonely.
  • Help your partner express his or her feelings and work through his or her frustrations with other people.
💑INFJ + ENTP
  • Bring up concerns or issues immediately and calmly. Don’t let them lie dormant until they — or you — explode.
  • Make time to talk with your partner about ideas and intellectual interests.
  • Be willing to be spontaneous; try to go with the flow. Initiate physical intimacy and plan to surprise your partner.
  • Keep communicating. Don’t withdraw when you feel hurt; explain your feelings.
  • Be willing to stop what you’re doing and listen to your partner’s ideas and visions without criticism or insisting that he or she make them all a reality.
  • Be willing to engage in good-natured debates. Try not to take these discussions personally.
💑INFJ + INTP
  • Respect your partner’s needs for privacy and independence.
  • Be careful not to become so involved in the needs of other people that you spread yourself too thin and don’t have any energy left for your partner.
  • Encourage your partner to relax and enjoy some downtime.
  • Be direct, honest, and calm about problems or issues. Try not to exaggerate or repeat yourself.
  • Keep your partner’s confidences. Never talk about his or her private issues with your friends.
  • Try not to nag or make smug comments about how much work you are doing compared with how much your partner is doing.
  • Be willing to adjust your timetable or agenda to accommodate your partner’s ideas and spontaneity.
  • Appreciate your partner’s accomplishments and competence.
💑INFJ + ENFJ
  • Share your reactions, thoughts, and feelings right away. Try not to withdraw.
  • Encourage your partner to pursue his or her own interests, friends, and activities.
  • Try to accompany your partner to as many social events as you can, but admit when you’re tired so your partner won’t take it personally.
  • Be careful not to become so tired from outside activities that you have nothing left for your partner.
  • Encourage your partner to think out loud. Be a receptive and attentive sounding board.
💑INFJ + ENFP
  • Listen enthusiastically to your partner’s ideas and brainstorms. Accept that much of the fun is in the imagining, not only in the doing.
  • Try to stay open to some of your partner’s more outlandish ideas.
  • Be sure to give your partner plenty of freedom to explore possibilities and meet new people.
  • Be willing to participate in some of the things your partner is interested in.
  • Ask questions and listen attentively to your partner’s responses.
  • Follow some of your partner’s inspirations and be willing to sometimes leave what you’re doing to go on an adventure.
  • Don’t withdraw when you’re upset. Be direct when asking for the time you need to think something through so your partner doesn’t think you are rejecting him or her.
  • Make allowances for your partner to keep his or her treasures in a special place.
💑INFJ + INFP
  • Listen respectfully and attentively. Watch that impatience and judgment don’t creep into your voice, and resist the urge to moralize.
  • Take time to pamper your partner. Spend a whole day devoted to demonstrating your affection and devotion.
  • Be patient with the mess and clutter. Work with your partner to finish boring chores.
  • Accept your partner’s need to move through projects slowly and his or her propensity to change directions in midstream.
  • Support your partner’s deep feelings.
  • Don’t pressure your partner to participate in anything too formal or contrived.

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