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ESTJ

Relationship Tips for ESTJs

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Introducción

Relationships are a continual interplay of giving, receiving, and compromising. Although every MBTI type has its strengths and weaknesses, your type need not determine your behavior. Moving outside your comfort zone opens up the opportunity for healthy personal and interpersonal development. There are certain human needs that are universal and this makes it possible for any two types to connect with one another. If two people are willing to lower their defenses and genuinely attend to each other’s needs, then the relationship has a great chance for success and happiness.

Consejos por Tipo de Pareja

💑ESTJ + ESTJ
  • Be willing to give as well as to receive. Practice generosity and patience.
  • Be careful to listen completely to your partner before jumping in, interrupting, or saying no.
  • Watch your tendency to get stuck in a boring routine. Try something new together.
  • Slow down and protect your private, quiet time together. Take vacations together or make regular dates for walks or adventures away from home.
  • Watch your tendencies to fall into strict gender roles. Encourage each other to break free of limiting expectations
💑ESTJ + ISTJ
  • Respect your partner’s need for time alone and quiet, especially after a busy, stressful, or social day.
  • Give your partner time to think things through before expecting a response, especially if it’s an important issue or decision.
  • Understand that your partner needs more time to consider making changes. Make a suggestion, then leave your partner alone to ponder it.
  • Beware of your tendency to be negative and critical.
  • Slow down and don’t rush your partner to make transitions.
💑ESTJ + ESFJ
  • Listen, listen, and listen some more! Let your partner spill out his or her feelings without comment or criticism.
  • Don’t try to fix your partner’s problems. Instead, be a supportive and concerned listener.
  • Share your reactions and feelings readily so your partner doesn’t have to wonder what you’re feeling.
  • Be patient with your partner’s emotions, even when you don’t fully understand them.
  • Compliment and appreciate your partner for all the ways he or she makes life more comfortable and happy.
  • Take a load off your partner by doing one of his or her chores.
  • Emphasize the positive and be gentle with criticism.
💑ESTJ + ISFJ
  • Be patient. Give your partner plenty of time to express his or her feelings. Listen attentively and respectfully.
  • Ask about your partner’s day and listen with your full attention.
  • Demonstrate your interest by paying close attention to the people details of your partner’s stories.
  • Speak softly and remember to notice and appreciate the positive things before commenting on the negative.
  • Be careful of your tendency to become so busy with work, other people, and outside activities that you neglect your partner.
  • Don’t pressure your partner to participate in social activities more than he or she wants to.
  • Never share personal information about your partner with other people.
💑ESTJ + ESTP
  • Try not to overschedule your partner’s spare time. Encourage your mate to enjoy the freedom he or she has without having to account for his or her time.
  • Be willing to put off what you’re doing to participate in some of the spontaneous suggestions your partner makes.
  • Don’t force decisions. Respect your partner’s need to gather a lot of information, especially from other people, before making a decision or coming to a conclusion.
  • Watch your tendency to say no immediately to suggestions or possible purchases. Keep an open mind and really consider the ideas.
  • Remember that your way isn’t the only way or even the right way. Try to be flexible and accepting of other points of view.
  • Be willing to let the small stuff go and experience the moment with your partner. Life is short — enjoy it!
💑ESTJ + ISTP
  • Give your partner plenty of space. Don’t intrude or crowd him or her.
  • Respect your partner’s privacy. Patiently encourage your partner to share, but never try to force your mate to reveal more than he or she wants to.
  • Learn about your partner’s hobbies and interests. Offer to participate, but make sure you also allow him or her to be alone.
  • Don’t control your partner’s time or schedule. Don’t make your mate account for every minute of his or her spare time.
  • Try to be spontaneous with your partner (plan it, if necessary), especially with regard to having sex under unusual circumstances.
  • Be patient with your partner’s curiosity. Watch out not to make definitive statements too quickly.
  • Don’t pressure your partner to participate in social activities if he or she isn’t up to it.
💑ESTJ + ESFP
  • Try not to pin down your partner or restrict his or her freedom. Encourage your partner to enjoy his or her spare time without having to account for it.
  • Comment on points of agreement before pointing out errors, flaws, or inconsistencies.
  • Be sure to express your appreciation for your partner’s efforts and for creating a happy, comfortable home life.
  • Be willing to participate in some of the many fun or unusual adventures your partner suggests. Consider the idea fully before saying no.
  • Watch your tendency to focus first on the negative. Use thoughtful words and gestures to show and tell your partner that he or she makes you happy.
  • Include your partner in your decision making. Resist your tendency to control or insist that things be done your way.
💑ESTJ + ISFP
  • Surprise your partner with events or presents.
  • Don’t expect or demand that your partner be as neat as you are.
  • Try not to impose too many rules or be too bossy. Realize that you may have to do many of the things you really want done yourself.
  • Realize that sometimes plans have to change. Try to plan for spontaneity.
  • Give your partner plenty of private time. Set aside times when your mate is not to be disturbed, and encourage him or her to enjoy the freedom not to respond during those times.
  • Give your partner plenty of hugs, show affection, and say “I love you” a lot.
  • Ask about the things that really matter to your partner, and really listen without telling your partner how to fix any problems. Be gentle and watch your tendency to be painfully honest and insensitive to your partner’s feelings.
  • Don’t dismiss your partner’s feelings. Watch your tendency to be overbearing or intimidating.
💑ESTJ + ENTJ
  • Encourage your partner’s efforts to take on increasing challenges. Don’t resist his or her need for change and professional growth.
  • Be patient with your partner’s long-winded, complicated, or ambiguous stories.
  • Consider your partner’s new ideas and suggestions for change. Watch your tendency to say no before giving your mate a fair hearing.
  • Listen respectfully and appreciatively to your partner’s theories and vision for the future. Resist the urge to point out factual errors or be negative and critical.
  • Try not to become fixated on details, especially negative ones.
💑ESTJ + INTJ
  • Respect and compliment your partner on his or her good ideas and accomplishments.
  • Recognize that your partner needs time to think about things before responding.
  • Resist the urge to push your partner into doing the things you want to do, when you want to do them (even if you think it’s for his or her own good).
  • Respect your partner’s need to spend time alone. Don’t drag him or her to social events or activities that he or she doesn’t want to attend.
  • Support and encourage your partner’s career aspirations and decisions.
  • Consider learning something — a language or skill — together.
💑ESTJ + ENTP
  • Listen with an open mind and try to be supportive of your partner’s creative suggestions or ideas.
  • Try not to impose more rules or structure than is absolutely necessary.
  • Plan to be spontaneous. Spend time with your partner just being free to go with the flow.
  • Recognize your partner’s many creative solutions to problems and compliment him or her on them.
  • Relax and let your partner show you a good time. Be willing to leave chores undone.
  • Surprise your partner. Plan a getaway or party.
💑ESTJ + INTP
  • Admit that you are simply processing information out loud, while respecting your partner’s strong need for time and privacy.
  • Avoid the tendency to criticize new ideas out of hand. Make yourself listen completely to your partner’s views before offering constructive criticism.
  • Try not to be too rigid about your schedules and routines. Allow for the possibility that an interruption might be good.
  • Appreciate the unique perspective your partner brings to discussions. Compliment him or her on good ideas.
  • Let your partner take you off the beaten path. Try his or her innovative ideas and indulge in fantasies.
  • Slow down and ask more questions. Make time for your partner to share things that are important or interesting to him or her.
💑ESTJ + ENFJ
  • Talk about the relationship and how you feel it is progressing and changing. Express your feelings and tell your partner you love him or her. ENFJs need to hear the words.
  • Be willing to consider other points of view. Support your partner’s feelings even if you don’t share or completely understand them.
  • Encourage your partner’s quest for more personal meaning and professional growth.
  • Compliment your partner on his or her insights and creativity.
  • Watch your tendency to dismiss or discount new ideas or approaches before considering them.
  • Focus on the positive. Appreciate your partner’s many contributions and efforts.
  • Watch your tendency to sound critical and demanding. Soften your tone of voice, smile, and emphasize the positive.
💑ESTJ + INFJ
  • Be patient with your partner’s more complicated thought process. Give him or her time to think things through before talking about them.
  • Listen carefully and fully to your partner’s ideas. Be willing to consider things that may seem impractical at first.
  • Wait before saying no or refusing to try a new approach. Give yourself time to think about it.
  • Express your feelings. Be willing to share your full range of emotions, including your fears and vulnerabilities. Express appreciation for your partner’s thoughtfulness.
  • Don’t demand that your partner accompany you to every social event. Respect his or her need for privacy and time to reflect.
  • Demonstrate an interest in your partner’s projects. Listen respectfully and ask questions so that you better understand your mate’s passions.
💑ESTJ + ENFP
  • Wait before you criticize or point out flaws in your partners’ ideas.
  • Listen with an open mind, especially regarding new ideas or possibilities.
  • Don’t nag about housework or chores that are left undone. Instead, help out even if it’s not your turn or your chore.
  • Express your feelings, including your fears and sadness. Let your partner be a resource for you.
  • Try not to tell your partner how to do things. Offer opinions if asked, but remember that there’s usually more than one way to do something.
  • Try to relax about the little things, especially timetables and schedules. Don’t force your partner always to do things according to your timetable.
  • Tell your partner how much you appreciate him or her. Compliment your partner on his or her great ideas and the fun he or she brings to the relationship.
💑ESTJ + INFP
  • Be gentle, patient, and supportive. Understand that it may take a while for your partner to be ready to talk about what’s upsetting him or her.
  • Listen, listen, and listen some more! Be attentive and understanding of your partner’s emotions, even if you don’t understand them.
  • Watch your tendency to be critical. Accentuate the positive rather than first commenting on what needs to be fixed.
  • Don’t dismiss your partner’s feelings, even if you don’t understand or share them.
  • Slow down and enjoy the moment. Give yourself time to think about options and gather information.
  • Express your appreciation of your partner’s efforts in completing a task. Compliment your partner on his or her good ideas and unique perspective.

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