Consejos de Relación
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ENFJ

Relationship Tips for ENFJs

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Introducción

Relationships are a continual interplay of giving, receiving, and compromising. Although every MBTI type has its strengths and weaknesses, your type need not determine your behavior. Moving outside your comfort zone opens up the opportunity for healthy personal and interpersonal development. There are certain human needs that are universal and this makes it possible for any two types to connect with one another. If two people are willing to lower their defenses and genuinely attend to each other’s needs, then the relationship has a great chance for success and happiness.

Consejos por Tipo de Pareja

💑ENFJ + ENFJ
  • Slow down. Resist the urge to get involved in so many projects that you become exhausted.
  • Take time on a regular basis to discuss the relationship — where you think it is going and how you might make constructive changes.
  • Be truthful and direct with each other. Be sure to spend time sharing both the positive and the negative with tact and honesty.
  • Don’t avoid healthy confrontations and discussions. Don’t run away when there’s a problem or put off speaking your mind.
  • Go on vacations alone together. Encourage each other to relax and not be productive for periods of time.
  • Encourage each other’s independence and individuality. Pursue your own interests and support each other’s growth.
💑ENFJ + ESTJ
  • Thank your partner for all the detailed work and household chores he or she does.
  • Compliment your partner on tangible things such as looks, projects accomplished, and financial contributions.
  • Do thoughtful things to make life run more smoothly. Remember to pick up the dry cleaning, make a nice meal, or clean out a closet.
  • Be prepared to offer accurate details and facts and to present your ideas logically. Don’t skip steps.
  • Don’t assume that you know where your partner is going and interrupt or finish his or her sentences.
💑ENFJ + ISTJ
  • Do chores your partner really wants done. Bring more order to the house and take care of your partner’s possessions.
  • Give your partner plenty of time alone to think things through.
  • Don’t exaggerate. Be clear and precise, and use real examples. Stay calm and keep small issues small.
  • Be specific about what you want your partner to do. Don’t be vague; show, don’t tell.
  • Give plenty of physical contact. Look for evidence of your partner’s feelings in a loving look or a compliment you hear from someone else.
  • Try not to take things so personally. Accept your partner’s constructive criticism in the spirit in which it is intended.
  • Initiate a regular routine that you both enjoy (going out to breakfast, hiking, playing golf together) to create the closeness you desire.
💑ENFJ + ESFJ
  • Recognize and appreciate all the thoughtful things your partner does to keep your life, home, and family running smoothly.
  • Be willing to give and receive honest feedback. Share your feelings; don’t gloss over them.
  • Be clear, specific, and direct in communicating with your partner. Offer plenty of real-life examples to make your point.
  • Let your partner know when you’re about to change subjects. Don’t skip steps.
  • Be careful to keep your promises.
  • Be patient with your partner’s need to adjust to the idea of changes.
  • Reassure your partner by reminding him or her of past experiences where the unknown worked out well.
  • Respect your partner’s need to maintain routines and keep things the same. Avoid making a lot of changes, especially big ones, without consulting your partner.
💑ENFJ + ISFJ
  • Be patient in all interactions, especially if you want something different or are suggesting change.
  • Watch your tendency to assume. Do reality checks with your partner.
  • Listen carefully, giving your partner your full attention, and don’t jump to conclusions before you’ve heard your partner’s full story. Don’t finish his or her sentences.
  • Take the time to draw out your partner, listening for meaning and patterns.
  • Patiently accommodate your partner’s need for a predictable schedule. Respect his or her routines and rituals.
  • Never disclose personal information about your partner to others.
💑ENFJ + ESTP
  • Do things and go places with your partner and participate in his or her interests and activities. Plan to be spontaneous.
  • Stay calm and clear; be direct and honest. Don’t tiptoe around problems.
  • Be willing to let some things go. Strike a balance between overdiscussing and keeping important issues to yourself.
  • Be patient with your partner’s need to gather more information and check out options even after you think things are decided.
  • Don’t pin your partner down or insist that he or she account for every minute of his or her time. Recognize how important freedom is to your partner.
  • Get the facts straight and be prepared to supply the level of detail your partner needs.
  • Watch your tendency to nag about chores and be rigid and bossy. Let little things go.
💑ENFJ + ISTP
  • When your partner is talking, stop what you’re doing and focus, or you will miss opportunities to foster the closeness you want.
  • Try not to exaggerate or be overly dramatic. Give the facts clearly and calmly.
  • Go with the flow. Be willing to experiment and try new things. Be more selective about which issues are important and which aren’t worth the struggle.
  • Give your partner plenty of time to mull over issues rather than forcing a discussion. Ask your partner to help you see the logical consequences of your actions.
  • Compliment your partner on how smart and competent he or she is.
  • Be specific about what you want your partner to do, and say when you really need it to be done.
  • Encourage your partner to pursue the activities and friendships that bring him or her pleasure. Don’t make your mate feel guilty for wanting to pursue them without you.
💑ENFJ + ESFP
  • Watch your tendency to blow things out of proportion or let your imagination get the better of you. Accept your partner’s devotion as fact.
  • Be totally direct and explicit in explaining your needs and wants. Show your partner what you like.
  • Be willing to wait to finish projects so you can participate in some of your partner’s spontaneous suggestions.
  • Look for the humor in the moment and enjoy it with your partner.
  • Surprise your partner. Bring home treats or occasionally do some funny or outrageous thing.
  • Respect your partner’s need to gather a lot of information before making a choice; don’t force decisions.
💑ENFJ + ISFP
  • Slow down and enjoy the moment with your partner. Resist the urge always to have an agenda.
  • Be willing to adapt your plans or abandon what you’re doing to participate in some of the spontaneous activities your partner enjoys.
  • Be patient when explaining your more abstract ideas or complicated projects. Don’t talk too fast or leap from topic to topic.
  • Watch your tendency to be critical and judgmental about your partner’s choices or to assume you know better.
  • Consider relaxing some of your standards for neatness and respect your partner’s desire to be surrounded with the possessions he or she loves.
  • Be careful not to become so overcommitted to outside projects and work that you don’t spend quiet time with your partner.
  • Don’t pressure your partner to participate in every social event with you.
💑ENFJ + ENTJ
  • Try to be consistent in your positions and clear and direct in your communication. Try not to exaggerate.
  • Stand up to your partner. Don’t be intimidated and back down when something is really important.
  • Try not to take things personally. ENTJs offer constructive criticism with the best of intentions.
  • Tell the truth about how you feel and what you need. Don’t let your natural diplomacy override your ability to be totally honest.
  • Encourage your partner to pursue his or her own interests. Compliment your partner on his or her achievements, status, and competence.
  • Ask your partner’s advice and listen respectfully.
💑ENFJ + INTJ
  • Recognize your partner’s need for independence and give him or her plenty of space and privacy.
  • Compliment your partner on his or her ideas and accomplishments. Try to be especially supportive of your partner’s career needs.
  • Convey how important conversation and sharing are to you, then give your partner your undivided attention. Listen without making value judgments.
  • Don’t misinterpret your partner’s silence for a lack of caring. Just because your partner doesn’t say it, that doesn’t mean he or she doesn’t feel it.
  • Don’t force too much social contact on your partner.
  • Watch your tendency to become impatient with your partner’s longer processing time.
💑ENFJ + ENTP
  • Listen without judgment or reservation to your partner’s many ideas. Stop yourself from immediately pointing out why these ideas are unrealistic.
  • Express your enthusiasm for your partner’s vision. Be supportive of his or her efforts to move ahead professionally.
  • Don’t nag or complain about chores that don’t get finished. Try to praise your partner for the things that do get done.
  • Try to be spontaneous and go with the flow of your partner’s ideas for adventure.
  • Try not to push too hard for decisions and closure. Whenever possible, let some things stand open.
  • Occasionally be willing to debate your partner. Stay calm, and don’t take the debate personally.
💑ENFJ + INTP
  • Give your partner genuine compliments, especially about the creativity and value of his or her ideas. Ask for your partner’s opinions, especially concerning creative or technical issues.
  • Respect your partner’s desire and need to be alone. Spend some quiet time together.
  • When your partner is listening, be careful not to “wear out your welcome” by talking too much.
  • Pursue your high social needs on your own. Don’t pressure your partner to join you.
  • After you express your needs or dissatisfaction calmly, wait and see what happens. Your partner is more likely to take action without further discussion.
  • Don’t criticize your partner’s competence publicly or ambush him or her with huge emotional outbursts.
  • Watch your tendency to put other people’s needs ahead of your partner’s.
💑ENFJ + INFJ
  • Recognize and accept your partner’s need for private space and quiet time, especially if he or she is under a lot of pressure.
  • Encourage your partner to pursue his or her own interests, activities, and friendships.
  • Listen fully and completely when your partner is talking. Don’t do anything else but look right into his or her eyes.
  • Compliment your partner on his or her many great ideas and visions.
  • Accept your partner’s need to opt out of some of the social activities you want to pursue. Don’t try to pressure him or her into attending.
  • Try not to get overinvolved in outside commitments. Continue to put your partner first.
💑ENFJ + ENFP
  • Temper some of your strong opinions. Resist the urge to vehemently express your likes or dislikes immediately.
  • Try to be flexible about plans. Don’t take it personally when your partner decides to change course.
  • Encourage your partner to pursue his or her many friendships and interests.
  • Be honest and open about what’s bothering you. Don’t avoid or cover up small problems or always try to put a good face on things for other people’s sakes.
  • Be willing to change plans or leave things unfinished so you can participate in some of the spontaneous adventures your partner suggests.
  • Be an enthusiastic and attentive listener of your partner’s many ideas. Don’t immediately point out why they may not work.
💑ENFJ + INFP
  • Prepare your partner for important plans. Frame them in terms of how important they are to you.
  • Curb your tendency to criticize and nag your partner about following through.
  • Relax and go at your partner’s pace. Try to be spontaneous rather than so project- or time-driven. Watch your tendency to be so much “on a mission” that you begin to act cold and controlling.
  • Respect your partner’s need for quiet and inactive time. Don’t talk too much or invade his or her space.
  • Express your honest feelings right away. Do so gently but directly.
  • Be careful not to put other relationships or outside activities above your partner.
  • Try to be more flexible about the little things. Let your partner help you lighten up.

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